Happy Monday Bosses and Boss Chics! Another week has approached us, and instead of looking at it as a dreadful Monday we must start our day by being thankful to see another 24 hours. Even though things don’t always work out the way we want or when we want, there is a divine order to the way our lives are supposed to be and for that we should always be thankful. No matter what, our lives are already planned and everything is ordered… therefore you can’t stress over what you can’t control.
On that note, my life has been a journey already at a mere 23… Majority of which I brought upon myself from poor judgement or just being hard headed lol. And in all those bad choices or mistakes I made, I would question why things happened to me. Even after I began to think before I acted as I got older, I would question why bad things continued to happen to me if my intentions were always good. It just seemed like there was always something lacking in my life, whether it be in finances, love, self appreciation, family life or whatever… Or someone was ALWAYS doing something to spite me or bring me down. I began to feel like things would never fall into place for me.
As time went on, I began to realize that I was putting my focus in the wrong things. I was constantly worried about how someone else would see me, or how people would react to me. Or I was trying to control how things would end up. Then I quickly realized that there are just certain things in life you can’t control no matter how hard you try. We have no control whatsoever on others’ actions or responses. Nor can you control situations that are out of your hand. We may do things and the results may turn out to be something different than we expected. But if you did your part the way you intended, how can it be your fault that it didn’t work out as planned?
I don’t know about anyone else, but I tend to beat myself up over things I can’t control quite often. Sometimes I may have something positive going on in my life and when I tell the people I love, I don’t get the response I wanted or expected. And yes I’ve gotten upset and in my feelings about it… very deeply. But if whatever it is you’re doing feels right to you and you’re proud, then why get upset? the same goes for when you put your all into something (could be a work project, a hobby, relationship etc) and it doesn’t work out the way you wanted it. As long as you gave it your all you can’t be mad at all, just be thankful you had the opportunity to grow and move on.
We have to stop getting in our feelings about things that are out of our hands. Instead of trying to dictate how a situation ends, instead focus on what you put into that situation to ensure that you get the best results possible. You can’t look at the overall picture if you’re not paying attention to the small details that will get you there 🙂 Have a #PositiveMonday!