Category Archives: Family

The Never Ending Grieving Process

Some families deal with death in great numbers that come crashing down one immediately after the next, but I haven’t had to deal with it too many times in my life. Actually I would say I’ve only had two deaths in my lifetime that have literally knocked the wind out of me and left me feeling like I didn’t know if I was coming or going. When death does come knocking around me, it seems to come for the people I love most and with whom I share the closest bond. The first being the loss of Delvin in 2002 when I was only 13, which many of you know about considering I have talked about him so much since then. Just as unexpected as that one was, the passing of my grandma was just as shocking and even more impactful. She was truly my best friend and confidante. I could tell her any and everything and she never once judged me in my life; she was always beyond proud of me even during my mess ups. From my childhood to adulthood, we were as thick as thieves and she had a bond with Trey that was just as strong as ours.

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[Day 3] Parental Advisory


Today’s post for the 30 day blogging challenge is supposed to be about my relationship with my parents which used to be a really sensitive subject for me, but is now something I can boast about. Most people know that I was raised by my grandparents and up until my twenties, I somewhat resented my parents for that. My four best friends all lived in homes with both of their parents and here I was with neither of mine. The dynamics of my home life really got to me throughout my middle and high school years. It seemed like the older I got, the more I craved an explanation for why things were the way there were; as a result, I rebelled. However if you look at how we interact today, you’d never be able to tell we had any issues at all.

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12 Years Too Long

What in the entire hell?? Where did the time go? It’s been a whole 12 years to the date since I lost the most important person I’ve ever lost in life. To think that I was a mere 13 year old girl at the time really weighs heavily on my heart. Not just because I experienced so much pain at such an early age, but because pretty soon I’ll have doubled in age since that tragic day. That completely scares me like no other.

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[Shants Love Da Kids!] Kasseem’s Dream

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I absolutely adore Mashonda and Swizz Beatz’s son Kasseem! He is crazy artistic and creative like his father, and I love the relationship that he has with his mom. You can tell she spends a lot of time feeding his brain and helping him keep his creative juices flowing. Mashonda is a HUGE inspiration to me! Despite however she may have acted initially during her divorce, she always put her son first and I respect that so much. I can relate very well to what it’s like having a son who has a passion in a specific area, and it’s important that parents encourage their kids to shoot for their dreams.

Kasseem has launched his own website for kids called Kasseem’s Dream where he posts all things he loves. I checked it out and he shares he love for the arts, what he finds inspiring right now, and GREAT ideas for kid activities over the holidays. In the pic above, he created a turkey fruit platter and gives the scoop on how to make your own on his website. I think this is the cutest little site, and I respect his parents so much for helping him find an outlet for all of his creativity. I will definitely be checking out the site for fun things to do with Trey and visiting the site with him regularly! You can check it out for yourself by clicking the link above… I’m inspired!!


[Positive Monday] Just The Two Of Us

Happy Monday bosses and boss chics!! I hope everyone had a great weekend despite the major power outage in my local area and other areas as well. We were out of power for almost 24 hours (and some STILL are) during the hottest weekend of the year thus far. Can we say in the way? Lucky for me, I missed most of the power outage because I stayed in Greensboro on Friday night after taking my little cousin and her friend to Superjam.

On Saturday I took my son Trey to the Asheboro Zoo and we had so much fun! Everybody kept telling me how this was going to be one of the hottest days of the year, but since I work on weekends I would not have been able to take him any other day in the near future. I am not an outdoors person at all, but seeing the smile on Trey’s face as we were visiting the animal exhibits was worth every sweat bead and sore muscle.

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It’s Christmas Time Again…

I must say that I have slacked tremendously this month with the BCF but I will get better with the New Year! I planned to put out a lot of blogs this week, but unfortunately Trey caught a stomach bug on Monday then passed it to me yesterday. So I haven't really had much time or energy to do anything.

With Christmas right around the corner, I'm sad to say that I'm still not in the Christmas spirit yet. I'm sure all of that will change after today when I do my last minute Christmas shopping. Every single year I say I'm going to get my shopping out the way early, but I never do. Then I'm the one who will have an attitude while I'm out shopping because there's too many people in my way lol. Go figure!

Carry On –>

Family Over Everything, That’s My Attitude

Good morning bosses and boss chics! I apologize for not getting to the Positve Monday post yesterday but I had a very hectic weekend which I'm about to fill you in on now. As some know, I was supposed to be leaving this past Friday to go to Norfolk for Norfolk State's homecoming. I had taken off work and was going to hit the road around 10 am. Originally my best friend Tia and I were supposed to go together but she wasn't able to get off work for the days she needed.I had changed my plans to stay at my grandma's in Chesapeake for the weekend and just drive to wherever I'm going from her house, but my plans were immediately altered after my mom called me Thursday night.

Carry On –>

We Are Family

I know, I know… I've definitely been slacking this week on the Boss Chic Files smh, but I was busy enjoying all the 4th of July festivities and time with family. To make up for it I thought I would recap my weekend and holiday because it was just that epic! 😛
First of all the family reunion for my paternal grandfather's family was this weekend. Now this is the one side of my family where I really don't know anyone except those that still live in our hometown. Every year they had family reunions in the past, I was always gone to the beach with my mom's family for our annual beach house trip. Anyway, I wasn't initially thrilled about giving my 4th of July weekend away to distant family that I didn't know because I thought everyone would be much older than myself. I got fooled! I met different cousins that I didn't even know I had and they were mostly right around my age. Also one of my cousins from Ohio came home, whom I hadn't seen in at least 12 years (Crazy right??) If you know me, you know I get so excited about meeting different family members because I think it's so cool to see how differently we all grew up. Needless to say, I knew the weekend was going to be a good one after all.

Carry On –>