I have so much to say, but I just can’t seem to form the words to properly express my thoughts; for me that means take it to the pen and paper, or in this case the fingers and keys. For the first time in my life, I’m completely appalled and speechless about the current state of America. And maybe that’s because I was in middle and high school when Bush was elected; I cared but because I hate politics and government (always have – I’m a socialist), it wasn’t a subject I studied or focused on much. But then at 19, here comes President elect Barack Obama with all this talk of progressive change which sparked hope in me… in many of us. What I didn’t consider were all the ways the media would blame him for everything that went wrong in the country. I didn’t predict that the right-wing, survival of the fittest type thinkers would hate him so much that they’d do whatever to switch the political party back in their favor – sadly in the hands of Donald Trump this go around. Continue reading Let’s Make America Great… Not Again
Being black in America, a crime in itself, has become excruciatingly painful in recent years for myself and many others. We live in a world where people have become desensitized to the effects of scrolling their timeline on social media to see a black man unequivocally, undeservingly lose his life to the hands of those who are meant to serve and protect. It doesn’t just stop there; black women are not exempt from the obvious perception from certain individuals that black lives don’t matter. When people feel the need to justify the threat they feel from the black lives matter movement, all lives matter is the first resort.
Of course all lives matter. Who doesn’t want justice for all as stated in our pledge? However, to say that justice for all is what actually takes place would be a lie. I don’t expect everyone to understand what we mean when we say black lives matter. Not everyone has to explain to their children that they have to avoid being perceived a certain way in order to not become a stereotype. Not everyone will understand that even when you explain to your children to be a certain way/avoid certain situations (those careless things teenagers and young adults do with their friends can often lead young black people caught up in the justice system for life), you still worry about them being at the wrong place at the wrong time or caught up in a stereotypical situation with the law. Black men suffer mass incarceration with longer sentences for pettier crimes while other races often plead insanity or receive lesser sentences for more serious crimes.
To know that we are viewed as a threat because we act or carry ourselves in a way that is often misunderstood truly scares me. Not only does it scare me but it makes me mad. I feel like an underdog in the worl but until we can come together, support each other, and build a lasting economy together it is impossible to make a change. So yes all lives do matter, but right now I’m only seeing black families mourn the loss of their loved ones at the hand of police officers these days. All lives matter, but unfortunately those same black families are usually seen mourning again months later as the police officer goes home to his family to watch that exact family on the news. Sometimes even he goes to back to his job.
I don’t get mad when people don’t understand what black lives matter means; they simply don’t understand what it means to be black in America. In a perfect world for many, simply stating they are not racist and never discriminating against black people coupled with the extinction of slavery, would be enough; but in this world it’s not. Just because slavery is no longer a factor, it does not mean black people are treated any more justly today. It’s ok if not everyone believes in the magic, but we won’t let it be denied. #blacklivesmatter
You know you that b*tch when you cause all this conversation; always stay gracious, best revenge is your paper
I really didn’t want to do this because quite frankly, I’m sick of hearing about Beyoncé right now whether good or bad. Everyone knows I’m a Beyoncé fan, but I didn’t even get tickets to her concert this go around after being present for her last three shows. The only reason I’m even doing this is due to the high accolades Kendrick Lamar is receiving for his genius performance on the Grammys last night. If you know me, you also know I’m a huge KDot fan and he’s my brother in my head; however, I happen to find issues with the fact that many individuals have been negatively comparing Beyoncé’s Super Bowl performance and “Formation” video while praising Kendrick’s Grammy performance last night. I beg to differ and am open minded enough to see the same message delivered in both with disparate artistry. In my views Beyoncé opted for a more unconventional route while Kendrick went with relatable visuals and deep lyricism as only he can do; but I still got similar messages from both.
Living in a world where being loyal to yourself means more than having any sort of loyal ties to another human being is what makes up our current generation. Acts of selfishness and betrayal are easily masked by excuses accompanied by a nonchalant indifference to the feelings of others in this human race. Followed by the desire to be respected while leaving nothing to respect. Where the relationship title or friendship label is loosely thrown around with no valuable ties to hold them in place. It’s become ordinary to betray the trust of those that we so patiently acquired; far fetched to maintain a relationship for more than a set amount of time before the reality of it becomes questionable from an outside perspective. No one wants to put in work because work is accompanied by problems and situations that arise, totally screwing up the perception of perfection that we so often love to portray. Loyalty and compromise have become overshadowed by the mentality of “not owing anyone anything”. Dependency on others is damn near extinct. We begin to forget the few who still hold us on a high moral ground and instead only see those lacking. Somewhere along the lines the game shifts and we’re all too focused on ourselves to help anyone else. But what happens when we’ve shut down on everyone BUT ourselves and have no one to turn to when ourselves shut down on us? Loyalty is a lifestyle, it’s deeper than the word. It’s even bigger than being loyal to those who are loyal to you. If we all got on one accord and became loyal to our human race, the respect level for others’ and their lifestyles could grow indubitably. Too often the thin line between right and wrong is blurred to pacify ourselves. The sad reality is that even through the real, there’s someone who’ll read this and mystify my message with their own flawed reality… proving exactly everything that I said 😉
What in the entire hell?? Where did the time go? It’s been a whole 12 years to the date since I lost the most important person I’ve ever lost in life. To think that I was a mere 13 year old girl at the time really weighs heavily on my heart. Not just because I experienced so much pain at such an early age, but because pretty soon I’ll have doubled in age since that tragic day. That completely scares me like no other.
It’s been quite some time since I’ve sat down and written a blog or written anything at all for that matter. I really had to take some time for myself and step away from the world of social media for awhile. I’ve become so addicted to Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook that I found myself wrapped up in the lives of others. It wasn’t intentional but when you’re constantly scrolling through social networks, you’re constantly being fed thoughts, experiences, and opinions from the lives and perspectives of everyone else. As much as we’re in denial, we need to face the fact that social media makes us influenced by other people. It had gotten to the point where I would post an outfit or look of the day on IG and be checking my notifications for likes. TF?? If I love what I have on for the day why the hell am I sitting here wondering how many likes I’m gonna get off this one picture? I put way too much thought into what somebody else would think of me and that’s never okay in my eyes.
I have never been a huge Rick Ross fan, but his music always makes me feel luxurious. I used to listen to him a lot more back when he first came out. Luxury Tax, Here I Am, and This Is The Life are a few of my favorites by him to name a few. Well I decided to give Mastermind a listen because I knew the production would be good. I was right. I love this album from beginning to end and that shocked the hell outta me! I’ve been playing this every day since last week, especially during my long drives to my internship and to work.
I got nominated for my second Liebster Award! Do I need to give a speech or nah?? Lol! This time my boo Keishy over at All The Rage Honey sent me a list of questions to answer, and for her I’m more than happy to! On a totally random note, I met Keish through Necole Bitchie’s “Bitchie Chick” group over twitter three years ago. She lives in Va Beach so I got the chance to actually meet her in person a little over a year ago and we stepped out for a night of fun. It’s crazy what social networking can do right?? Anywho, here goes!
I blogged about Miloh Smith about a year ago when she released her first mixtape, Suite 404, and if you didn’t catch the wave then you’re losing tremendously in life. Miloh is the epitome of dope, I don’t know how else to put it. I haven’t been this excited about an artist since I discovered K’la’s Coldest Winter Ever mixtape 3 years ago. Miloh gives me life!! She’s a 23 year old Atlanta native and the best way I can describe her is “different”. Her sound is so breathtakingly unique and her lyrics have so much substance. I’m currently listening to this mixtape as I type this and I’m getting giddy just thinking about the quality of her music. Thank you Miloh!!
I’m about two weeks late on this mixtape, didn’t even know it had dropped! And to think I called myself keeping up with Miloh for the past year. My musichead friend Ruth in Jacksonville hit me with a “pop quiz” text today asking if I had the mixtape and I flew to datpiff.com to get it immediately. Then she kept insisting that I skip songs and listen to “Intexication” and now I know why. Ooh this quickly became my favorite on the whole mixtape. This song is so smooth, sensual, sexy, seductive… gahh it’s everything!
From the very first track “6:30 AM” Miloh sings about a love that she would kill for, even die for. The slow bass-filled beat of each track accompanied by her sultry voice and emotional lyrics makes the whole mixtape playback worthy. Miloh has a lackadaisical, sensual sound that is not like any other that I’ve heard. I really like what she’s bringing to the table and I can’t wait to see where her career takes her. I really recommend that ya’ll get up on Miloh and I even included the full mixtape after the break so you have no excuses not to listen! Check it out and let me know what you think… Does Miloh have that “it” factor??
Yesterday I posted a tweet that said, “Chicks love to say somebody’s man want them. So if all these chicks’ men want you then where is YOUR man that wants you?”… I’m still waiting on the answers lol. I got a lot of retweets and mentions about this subject an a couple of folks told me I should blog about it. Now I know I’m going to ruffle a lot of feathers with this one, but it needs to be done. What exactly are you bragging about by saying that someone else’s man wants you?? In reality, when you have numerous relationship issues or fail to keep a man yourself, you should be asking yourself why none of these men want to actually keep you.